As far back as I can remember, my mom was focused on making sure kids knew they were important players in the bigger picture, and she didn’t miss an opportunity to acknowledge them for it. When I was small, most of the children’s birthday parties I attended included games that were fun for little ones to play. Some were games of chance, and other’s required a bit of skill or some teamwork. (Anyone remember the Farmer in the Dell, Musical Chairs, Simon Says, Pin the Tail on the Donkey, and London Bridge is Falling Down?) There was always a lot of excitement while the games were being played, and as each one came to it’s conclusion, the “winner” (or each member of the winning team) was awarded a small prize. All too often, though, the fun was followed by a bit of confusion (and even some tears) when those who didn’t “win” somehow felt like losers.
My Mom had a different approach when she planned activities to celebrate the birthdays of her own 3 little kids. Just imagine for a minute, if only the “winner” played. It wouldn’t be much fun for anyone would it? (including the winner!) As a result, every child that stepped up to be part of the game, was also acknowledged for being an important part of the fun. The sparkly-eyed anticipation of reaching into the prize bag and pulling out a special treasure was a reflection of that, and all the happy little participants shared in the delight. I think we all feel good when we’re appreciated, and when we know that playing our part really does make a difference, we have a sense of contribution and belonging.
For many years now, “Rainbow the Clown” (aka my Mom ♥) has been making the world a brighter, happier place for children of all ages, and she still never misses an opportunity to let us know that we matter ♥